Hmmm….I don’t want someone who looks like ME! I had a boyfriend for a while once, a few years ago. He was 1/5 Chinese, and 1/5 German. Smooth, slender, hot, blonde hair and slanty eyes. And he "made" me deal with something I never ever thought I’d have to deal with: He basically objectified me: He was a total chubby-chasing bear-hunter, and wasn’t REALLY all that into "me". And then I had to look at the other side of that: A LOT of guys that I am "into" fundamentally annoy the holy hell out of me, bore me to tears, and have the intelectual capacity of a block of tofu and personalities like ill-tempered furbies.
But odd pairings are bound to happen…..I mean, McAin Tagged Sarah Palin. And who would have ever seen that coming?
What he said to me was so unfair! First of all, as you say, you see a lot of pairings that seem odd. Everyone does. Physical beauty is a personal judgment and its hard wired into your libido. I see couples all the time where one of them (in my opinion) is just drop dead gorgeous while the other is (in my opinion) bug ugly and it makes you wonder. But they make each other happy and that’s all that matters. It happens all the time. Secondly, this guy is more then ten years my junior, pretty good looking himself, and his boyfriend is more then ten years my senior (admittedly a very good looking, almost Hollywood handsome older guy)…and he’s telling me to give up.
I’d hit someone who looked like me in a heartbeat. That’s one advantage to being attracted to your own sex is you can look in a mirror and ask yourself, "would I hit that?". And yes…I would. Of course the problem is though, that what you see in a mirror isn’t what everyone else sees. It’s the reverse image. I don’t know if you’re aware of this or not, but the two halves of your face aren’t identical. There are very slight differences. If you want to see it, have someone photograph you face-on (like a passport photo) and then make two print copies…one correct and one reversed. Cut both in half down the middle and match up the right side of one with the reversed right side of the other. Do likewise with the two left sides. Trust me…it will weird you out. So I’m always wondering how good I look to everyone else, even after checking myself out in a mirror. And I just don’t know. So I just have to carry on as if there is someone out there who would find me attractive. What I don’t need are friends telling me I’m not.
I think I have the kind of face that people just instantly find either attractive or ugly, but there is no in-between. But I don’t know. I just don’t. And in any case, as I said, beauty is a personal judgment. I just need to find a mutual attraction. What I don’t need are friends telling me there is no such thing in my case. Logically I know that isn’t true. But he really cut me.
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November 11th, 2008 at 1:08 am
Hmmm….I don’t want someone who looks like ME! I had a boyfriend for a while once, a few years ago. He was 1/5 Chinese, and 1/5 German. Smooth, slender, hot, blonde hair and slanty eyes. And he "made" me deal with something I never ever thought I’d have to deal with: He basically objectified me: He was a total chubby-chasing bear-hunter, and wasn’t REALLY all that into "me". And then I had to look at the other side of that: A LOT of guys that I am "into" fundamentally annoy the holy hell out of me, bore me to tears, and have the intelectual capacity of a block of tofu and personalities like ill-tempered furbies.
But odd pairings are bound to happen…..I mean, McAin Tagged Sarah Palin. And who would have ever seen that coming?
November 11th, 2008 at 3:36 am
What he said to me was so unfair! First of all, as you say, you see a lot of pairings that seem odd. Everyone does. Physical beauty is a personal judgment and its hard wired into your libido. I see couples all the time where one of them (in my opinion) is just drop dead gorgeous while the other is (in my opinion) bug ugly and it makes you wonder. But they make each other happy and that’s all that matters. It happens all the time. Secondly, this guy is more then ten years my junior, pretty good looking himself, and his boyfriend is more then ten years my senior (admittedly a very good looking, almost Hollywood handsome older guy)…and he’s telling me to give up.
I’d hit someone who looked like me in a heartbeat. That’s one advantage to being attracted to your own sex is you can look in a mirror and ask yourself, "would I hit that?". And yes…I would. Of course the problem is though, that what you see in a mirror isn’t what everyone else sees. It’s the reverse image. I don’t know if you’re aware of this or not, but the two halves of your face aren’t identical. There are very slight differences. If you want to see it, have someone photograph you face-on (like a passport photo) and then make two print copies…one correct and one reversed. Cut both in half down the middle and match up the right side of one with the reversed right side of the other. Do likewise with the two left sides. Trust me…it will weird you out. So I’m always wondering how good I look to everyone else, even after checking myself out in a mirror. And I just don’t know. So I just have to carry on as if there is someone out there who would find me attractive. What I don’t need are friends telling me I’m not.
I think I have the kind of face that people just instantly find either attractive or ugly, but there is no in-between. But I don’t know. I just don’t. And in any case, as I said, beauty is a personal judgment. I just need to find a mutual attraction. What I don’t need are friends telling me there is no such thing in my case. Logically I know that isn’t true. But he really cut me.