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July 2nd, 2008 Tick…Tick…Tick… Relax and enjoy the inevitable...as Heinlein once said...
Hate Is The Puppeteer… Andrew Sullivan has all the reason he needs now, to like Obama...
On the other hand Andrew, it may all just be an act to trick independents into voting for a democrat so they can raise your taxes, surrender to the French, confiscate your SUVs, and give pink Cadillacs to welfare mothers. Ever think of that? Isn't it awfully convenient that the left is suddenly getting mad at Obama now that he's won the primary? Kos is a tricky bastard... Tales From George Bush’s America…(continued) The State Of The Union...
The Bush republicans. The Family Values voters. The Religious Right. They wanted to take back America. They wanted to remake it in their own image. They have. Faking It Is Even More Painless Those wacky Wall Street hedge fund managers...
I'll bet that suicide was especially painless. He was heading for jail for defrauding investors, so maybe he simply decided to end his life the way he lived it...by faking it. They talk a good game in the financial stratosphere about free markets and self reliance for pretty much the same reason the religious right likes to yap, yap, yap about Jesus and family values. June 30th, 2008 Just How Gay Was Your Boyhood Anyway… Number 248 in a series of comprehensive test questions...
Actually...I cried pretty bitterly when Jody killed Flag too. Absolutely couldn't bring myself to watch Old Yeller after that... Top Ten Worst Cars To End It All In… #10, The 1989 Nissan Maxima… Note to self: When committing suicide by car, it's okay to take your seatbelt off.
I suspect the Mercedes would probably be one of the last cars you'd want to end it all in. Other then a Volvo maybe. Ironically though, I'll bet you could accomplish the deed in a good many SUVs. But picture for a moment, not only the shame of trying to kill yourself and failing, but then on top of that you find yourself starring in commercials touting the car's safety features... When he tried to end it all by driving his new Mercedes off Pike's Peak, the computerized anti-lock breaking system kept the cars wheels from locking for the entire thousand foot slide into the ravine, while the Active Stability Control automatically maintained proper traction. The high strength door sidebars kept boulders from protruding into the passenger compartment as the vehicle bounced off them. The C300's seatbelt pre-tensioning technology kept him firmly in the driver's seat and the active head restraints kept his neck from breaking as the car slammed and banged its way down into a ravine. Meanwhile, the crumple-zone technology, which Mercedes has developed since the 1950's, insured that the passenger compartment maintained its integrity while the car hit one boulder after another. As the car rolled over, the high strength steel frame, which Mercedes crash tested over a hundred times, kept his body from being crushed, while the six passenger compartment airbags deployed and gently cushioned the blow. When the car finally came to a rest he was able to open the driver's side door and walk out unharmed. Mercedes-Benz...Engineered Like No Other... Actually, Daimler would probably be horrified if anyone seriously assumed they could survive something like a drive off Pike's Peak in one of their cars. Over and over and over again throughout the car's extensive owner's manuals, they warn you not to take the car's many safety features to mean you can drive it more recklessly. They fairly nag you about it in fact. When Your Own Cheapshit Prejudices Start Laughing At You… So as it turns out, One News Now, the so-called Christian News Service which is actually an American Family Association front group, gets newsfeeds from various real news wire services for its "service" which it then feeds back out to its subscribers in a Family Friendly sorta way. As it turns out, that means filtering the copy it gets from all those secular news sources to make the text more Family Friendly. Their filtering software is about as doggedly single-minded about fighting The Gay Agenda as they are it seems. Even if it means also fighting the Tyson Gay Agenda...
This is the problem with auto replace. Here's the article fetched from Google Cache. Go grab yourself a nice cold drink, sit a spell and have yourself a thoroughly enjoyable read...noting how the OneNewsNow auto-replace got all the instances of "Gay", but missed "Gay's"...
Some Google search screen shots from Right Wing Watch showing how One News Now has been doing this to poor Tyson for quite some time now and nobody there seems to have noticed. Certainly none of their readers seem to have. You have to figure there aren't all that many sports fans in the batshit crazy pews.
This is instructive, in a kind-of Road Runner verses Coyote sense. Chuck Jones once said that his Coyote fit the classic definition of a zealot as being someone who doubles their effort after they've forgotten what their original goal was. If the anti-gay fanatics over at OneNewsNow were just a tad little less fanatical, they'd have thought their brilliant plan to automatically replace "gay" with "homosexual" through a little more carefully. But we're the bell to their Pavlov's dog and they couldn't even think to think. They just jerked their knees, and out came one headline after another, about how Tyson Homosexual set a record at the 100 yard dash.
Hate destroys you from within and it laughs at you while it's doing it. June 29th, 2008 Why Are Bruce’s Photographs Like Hitler’s Watercolors… Answer: They have no people in them. So...it's come to my attention that certain folks seem to think my photography is notable for absence of people. That's not exactly true, or I probably wouldn't be invited to take pictures so often of things like weddings and prom dates. Oh...and drag performer award ceremonies. But I'll admit it's true that I don't often spotlight my people pictures in my art photography galleries. Sad but true...what you mostly get there is this kind of thing...
That's from the Puerto Vallarta gallery. People were asking the other day where the hell the people were. I'd depopulated the entire city, they joked. I'd posted a private gallery with a bunch of snapshots of the friends who took me there, but I elected to omit those from the published gallery for two reasons. First, those were private. But the gallery was intended for my art photography, and yes, that stuff tends to run in this direction...
And this sort of thing...
Lots and lots of that sort of thing, actually. It's what comes out of me most of the time. And for what it's worth...I hate it. I hate it so much that for just over a decade I put my cameras down and refused to take any more pictures because I was so sick of looking at it. Even when I was trying to be playful, I kept seeing it...
They say there's a fine line between artistic and crazy. After just over a decade of not even so much as touching my cameras, I picked them up again because I just had to. It sounds insufferably arrogant to stick the 'artist' label onto yourself, but if one symptom of it is you do it because you have to, even if you hate what you're doing, because something deep down inside of you just keeps pushing you into it and you could stop breathing before you could stop making your art, well then that's me. But...well...I don't hate everything I do. I really like my people pictures. Back in high school, and my college years, back when the camera bug really got me, I actually did a lot more people stuff then shadows and light stuff. I really got into it as a matter of fact. Really, really into it...
Really...really...into it...
And...somehow...I stopped doing that kind of thing. I just can't imagine what happened. Nobody who knows me seems to be able to figure it out either. All they know is Bruce doesn't take people pictures. Well...Actually...yes I do. When I get the chance. When it's something that strikes at my heart. People I find doing noble work, and I just have to document it, because it's so beautiful to see...
People I know...creative people...doing noble work...
People taking a stand for life's beauty...becoming beautiful themselves in the doing of it...
People... Yes...I take pictures of them...
But...you know...sometimes it's the artifacts we leave behind, the marks made on the earth by the human hand...by the human heart...those ephemeral footsteps along the shore we leave behind...that speak so profoundly to the human condition...to existence...
And that's what keeps calling to me. That's what I have to go find. And bring back. These are my little footsteps in the sand. There's a difference between the carefree snaps I take of my friends when we go here and there, and my art photography. And my artwork isn't entirely devoid of people. Furthermore, if you look closely, carefully, you can still see a spark of that sense of life I used to have...back when I could still be certain I would find my soulmate...back when I could still be certain beauty made life worth living. At least I can still see it. A little bit. You know...beauty...
Yes, actually, I Can do people. If all you can see in my photo imagery is the lack of people, you're not really looking at it. On the other hand, I really really wish my friends would quit thoughtlessly blaming me for the solitary, emotionally isolated life I've lived for so long, that I hate the sight of whenever I look at the brutalist imagery. Particularly the friends in a position to at least try to help me out of here. If I fucking hear "You just need to get out more" one more fucking time I swear I will go nuclear. Yes, as a matter of fact, there Are people in my photos, and yes, as a matter of fact, I Do go out from time to time. Just not into gay bars looking for this week's trick every Friday night. Does that make me a recluse? So...some months ago we all went to this bar we'd never gone to because our usual hangout had been invaded by bears. And yeah...you all noticed how immediately taken I became by the bartender that night. You started joking about it. That's Bruce's type all right... And there I was...gawking away like a schoolboy again. Somebody did me a really big favor that night. A favor nobody else had ever done for me before. They got his name for me. Sweet. And then I was able to talk to him. And some of you may have noticed that I put some effort into getting to know him a bit more in the weeks and months afterward. Yeah...nothing eventually came of it. But to the guy who did me that favor...Thank You! I had a chance I wouldn't otherwise have had because of your kindness. Nobody ever did that sort of thing for me before. I am not kidding. That was the first time in my life someone ever did that for me...and I note that you not only didn't think twice about it when you sized up the situation, but that you enjoyed doing it. Wow. Never mind a boyfriend...where were You all my life! For a while there, I didn't feel so disconnected from...people. It's nice to feel like you're a part of the world from time to time. I really don't want the brutalist imagery to define me. You know what I really hate more then the thought of dying alone? It's the thought of people picking over the body of my work after I'm gone from this earth and going "Oh how tragic that he was so lonely...but Such Wonderful Artwork that tragedy produced! No. Please. I'm going to put it in my will that if I die never having found that intimate other in my life, my executor is to burn it all. All the film and prints and hard drives with the digital library. All the paintings and drawings. Take down the web galleries and the cartoon pages. No collector's joy in my desolation...please. One way or another, I will not be defined in death by my sorrow.
Roommates: Several Circles Closer To Satan Then Living Alone Note to self... Don't go advertising for a roommate just because you're so damn lonely...
There's a period of adjustment in every relationship... June 28th, 2008 Tick…Tick…Tick… Another Friday Happy Hour...another drive back home. This was supposed to keep me sane and it isn't anymore. Now I'm not just feeling sad and lonely...I'm feeling trapped. I need a way out. June 27th, 2008 Oh, Shut Up Heller. Yes. I know this bothers some of my friends but I completely agree with yesterday's supreme court decision regarding D.C.'s gun ban. But this kind of rhetoric, from McCain's campaign, really bothers me...
Blah...blah...blah... Here's the part I mean...
Emphasis mine. Sacred? Sacred? Well if it's sacred, Bob Barr has something to say about McCain's devotion then... But...see...this is what bothers me...this elevating of guns to the status of religious objects. They aren't. If there is any fundamental right here at all it's the right to self preservation, and even that isn't sacred or else you'd have to condemn soldiers, policemen, firemen, and anyone and everyone who ever sacrificed their own lives for others. The sacred thing here, if anything, is life itself. And even that isn't always a black and white thing. I know...I know... McCain is just pushing buttons. But it's this kind of thing that has dragged the conversation about morality in this country down into the gutter. It cheapens both the concept of the sacred, and the thing you are trying to superficially attach it to. Guns aren't sacred objects. They're useful tools and the government has no business banning them outright, not even for the simple reason that people have a right to defend themselves, but more specifically because while government may be our protector in many ways, it is not our nanny and we are not its children. It's entirely proper and reasonable for government to take a roll in keeping deadly weapons out of the hands of anyone likely to commit crimes of violence. It's completely reasonable for government to regulate the kinds of firearms people can own, and how and when they can bear them in public. That's different from taking the position that no individual citizen can own a gun period, because then you're saying that the people have no right to self defense. That completely changes the relationship between citizens and their government, in just the same way that censorship and morality laws do. And let's face it...outright gun bans aren't public safety laws, they're morality laws. Which...let it be said...all the brave second amendment warriors out there in the NRA and other gun groups really don't give a crap about, unless it involves their Sacred Guns. On the SLOG Blog the other day in a thread about Heller, a commenter pointedly pointed out that Bush has ripped up habeas corpus and the gun groups kept silent. He went on a wiretapping rampage and the gun groups kept silent. And don't get me started on the fact that so many second amendment warriors are raving homophobic bigots who hated to see the sodomy laws overturned and who are probably campaigning right now to see same sex marriage banned everywhere. All their fine and noble rhetoric about freedom and liberty and patriotism is just so much bullshit. When you get right down to it, the second amendment warriors have been responsible for more erosion of our civil liberties and more damage to our constitution then anything the Brady Campaign could ever have done. So to all the cheering second amendment warriors out there right now I would just like to say Shut Your Fucking Pie-Hole! Please. If Scalia had written instead that gun bans are a legitimate expression of the moral values of the voters in a community, just what the fuck would you have said to that? That majorities don't have the right to impose their moral values on everyone else? Especially when their doing that puts other people's families at risk? Please. Just...shut up. June 26th, 2008 To Everything Turn, Turn, Turn… Peterson Toscano, links to an interesting page on the stages of coming out. I'm not sure I agree with the implicit premise that everyone goes through the process the same way, but it got me thinking about my own journey, which I've been trying in fits and starts to tell in my cartoon series, A Coming Out Story...
See...that's not exactly the way it happened with me. I fell in love, and once I realized it the self acceptance part just immediately happened. I'd never felt anything so wonderful in my life. Up until that moment, that instant (which I can still recall vividly to this day...it was on December 15th, 1971, at around 7PM.), I honestly thought I was straight. I just loathed the idea of dating was all. I'll go to my grave angry that I wasn't told before then that I guys could have boyfriends too and there was nothing wrong with that if that's how you were. I'd spent almost my entire adolescence hating the whole dating and mating scene and wishing I could go live somewhere where I didn't have to deal with it. But that was because of the pressure I felt to start dating girls. I just wanted to hang out with my friends. My Male friends. And one guy in particular who I still at that time hadn't worked up the nerve to actually talk to, even though I was busy filling my sketchbooks and contact sheets with images of him. Even though I would often take the long way to class in order to catch a glimpse of him walking down the hall. If someone had told me that guys could fall in love with other guys I would have had an entirely different attitude toward this dating thing. But what I was taught in my junior high school sex ed class, was that homosexuals were mentally ill, sociopathic monstrosities that raped children, hated themselves and usually killed the people they had sex with. After mutilating their bodies. I knew I wasn't any of that, so I concluded I was not a homosexual. The moment I realized I was in love with that certain someone, all of the lies I was taught vanished in a puff of smoke. I still knew I wasn't any of the things I was taught that homosexuals were. But I also knew then that all those racing heartbeats and sweaty palms I got at the sight of good looking guys, and especially at the sight of that certain someone, had been all that time a little more then just "going through a phase." All the sex dreams I'd had about guys, and never about girls...yeah...that was telling me something all right. I was more stubborn then afraid. Deep down inside I was conflicted over two mutually irreconcilable facts: that the sight of beautiful guys really made my day, and that being a homosexual meant I had to hate both them and myself...and I just couldn't. I would stare at them for hours, sketching them or photographing them...and in particular that certain someone. And it didn't feel awful when I did that. It felt wonderful. And so...ironically...it was on the basis of how good it felt to admire their beauty that I concluded I wasn't homosexual. The sex dreams that usually came later that night, I simply wrote off to "going through a phase"...whatever that meant. So self acceptance came in a very odd and round about way to me, and I never hated myself. But after that moment, did come the crystal clear understanding that I had to be careful, goddamned careful, who I told and how. My peers all had the same sordid sex education concerning homosexuality. I had a feeling I was going to freak out a lot of people if I just suddenly started being open about my sexual orientation. So That process took a lot of time and a lot of soul searching. Matter of fact...after the Bush re-selection I was still doing some pretty heavy soul searching over it. But I guess a lot of other gay folks were then too. Anyway...the page Peterson links to, got me thinking about that period in my life. The first stage, so they say, is Identity Confusion...which I guess applied because I sure was confused. In fact, for quite a long time before I entered high school, and first laid eyes on a certain someone, I was one confused little guy. In retrospect, my feelings toward my male friends were always intense and full of a yearning that I never could quite understand. When a friend would occasionally get mad at me I would be crushed. When my best friend from grade school moved away I cried for weeks over it. I remember that entire school year as being one of great sadness for me.
I am different from the others.
Then comes Identity Comparison...Identity Tolerance...
I'm not gay.
Identity Acceptance...
I'm gay. It's no big deal, really. Identity Pride...
I'm gay. That's fine.
Identity Synthesis...
I'm gay. I'm alone. To everything - turn, turn, turn June 25th, 2008 “The fruits of love grow all around…”
Destroying Marriage In Order To Save It…(continued) Shorter Michael Medved: Heterosexuals don't need marriage, therefore homosexuals can't have it. No...seriously...that's his argument in response to Jonathan Rauch's column in the Wall Street Journal the other day...
Medved goes on to make the standard anti-gay case that only opposite sex couples have that magic combination of male and female attributes that make a marriage both stable, and beneficial for children. But then he goes on to take that to its logical conclusion...
Medved's column is pretty much a simple rehashing of hoary anti-gay and more specifically, anti-male stereotypes. Gay men can't control their sex drives because they are men. Well...yes...Lesbian couples are more stable because they're both female, but children need both a mother and a father, so their unions are bad for children too. Never mind that there is not one iota of science behind any of this, let alone tradition. Consider for a moment, how big the straight jacket is that female sexuality is bound inside in male dominated societies. It isn't male sexuality that's being kept under a tight lid in a culture where boys can sew their wild oats, but girls are sluts if they do the same. Never mind all that. Just look at where this delivers Medved. He is now arguing, in all seriousness, that it is heterosexuality, not marriage, that provides for both stability and a better environment for children. Heterosexuals are actually so good at it, that marriage is completely unnecessary for them. This is seriously his argument. We have been told, over and over again, that allowing homosexual couples to marry will make marriage itself worthless. And now along comes Michael Medved to argue that it is in fact heterosexuality, by its very nature, that renders marriage worthless. Sweet. Can we stop blaming gay people for the horrible state of marriage in this country now? Please? June 24th, 2008 Awe Spectacular double rainbow in the sky here in Baltimore yesterday! I'd just come home from work and glanced outside to see a sudden shower coming down on my street. So I stepped out onto my front porch to watch, and noticed the sun was out and brightly shining to my west. Down towards the end of my street, you could see the rain coming down in glistening sheets of raindrops through the intense sunlight. To the east, it was dark as slate. I can't see the sky too clearly from my front porch because of the Japanese oaks in the front lawn. But given what I could see...sun shining brightly over there though the rain...dark rain clouds in the sky opposite...I reckoned there should be a rainbow over in the dark patch somewhere. So I stepped out into the rain to take a look. There was...
Already some of my neighbors had come out to take a look. First you saw the bright inner rainbow. Then as it became even brighter, you started seeing an outer one. Eventually, the two of them formed perfect arches, vaulting across the Baltimore sky...
So beautiful! The white car roof in the foreground of the last shot is Traveler. By then the shower had turned into a light sprinkle and I took a stroll through the neighborhood, not minding how wet I was getting at all, just completely enraptured by the intense colors arching overhead. These photos don't really do it justice. It was almost like they were burning up there, like the sky had caught fire and every color hidden within it was now ablaze, so intense were those arches. It must have lasted for almost an hour. Then the sun began to set and the rainbow slowly unraveled, as if drawing itself down into the earth. First the outer loop faded away. Then the top of the inner loop seemed to break off, separating it into two half arches. Slowly, slowly, the broken arches shrank from the sky, until only two rainbow pillars at either end of the horizon were left. But the pillars of color remained for a long time, staying bright and fiery until the last of the sunlight faded in the west. I walked up and down the blocks of my rowhouse neighborhood until there was almost no light in the sky, and looking down the cross-streets toward the horizon, I could see those fantastically intense pillars of color well into the twilight. They looked like fountains of color erupting from the earth. I've never seen its like. Whatever weather pattern had brought us the rain, a blanket of cool, dryer air came along with it and the evening was perfect for getting out of the house and strolling around some more. I left all my chores undone and just savored it because I know what the summer will be like when it finally settles in.
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