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<\/a><\/p>\nWhen arguing for the legitimacy of homosexual relationships and same-sex marriage you hear a lot of talk from the other side about the complementary nature of the sexes. \u00a0 But there’s the gender you’re attracted to sexually and the one you are emotionally comfortable with and in the best of all possible worlds those two are the same, because that is where the soulmate and wholeness are.<\/p>\n
It isn’t always precise, lots of people are completely comfortable in the company of both men and women, and some people fit more in the middle of the Kinsey scale than at its extremes. But sometimes there is a disjointedness. \u00a0 You see the heterosexual male who is sexually attracted to women but dislikes them emotionally, prefers the company of his buds and treats women as nothing more than sex objects. \u00a0 And I’ve encountered gay males who are more emotionally secure in the company of women and do the same thing to other gay men.<\/p>\n
I feel sorry for those. \u00a0 Life is so much sweeter when your emotional needs can be met by your attractive sex too. \u00a0 There is wholeness. \u00a0 And because heterosexuals mate to their opposite sex, it’s very easy for them to mistake the complementary nature of their relationships for gender. \u00a0 But the complement isn’t gender. \u00a0 The complement is the person.<\/p>\n
So sometimes you see a same-sex couple and one seems very masculine and the other very feminine and you think ‘a-ha…this one’s the man and that one’s the woman..’ But then you see a pair and you can’t rightly tell and it’s confusing.<\/p>\n
Forget about gender. \u00a0 See how they, as individual people, complement each other. \u00a0 That is how it always works.<\/p>\n
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