{"id":6842,"date":"2013-02-11T09:39:57","date_gmt":"2013-02-11T14:39:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/?p=6842"},"modified":"2013-02-12T02:47:47","modified_gmt":"2013-02-12T07:47:47","slug":"if-we-didnt-love-you-we-wouldnt-be-stabbing-your-heart-to-ribbons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/6842","title":{"rendered":"If We Didn&#8217;t Love You We Wouldn&#8217;t Be Stabbing Your Heart To Ribbons"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/6792\">I began these Valentine&#8217;s Day reminiscences<\/a> to shine a light on how love is systematically taken from this poor angry world, denied not just to gay people, but to everyone, lover, friend, family, they might have also loved. \u00a0 I began it with a quote from a vicious screed published in Harper&#8217;s Magazine back in 1971, by one Joseph Epstein, who said homosexuals were &#8220;condemned to a state of permanent niggerdom among men&#8221;&#8230;<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>His howl against the homosexual in that Harper&#8217;s article almost  certainly became a dagger in the the hopes and dreams of young gay men  and women back then, reassuring parents, teachers, clergy that it was no  sin to put a knife in the hearts of teenagers in love, that if they  were condemned to live their one life in loneliness and heartache that  was merely the Curse Of Homosexuality, not their own bar stool arrogance  and cheapshit prejudices that did it to them. \u00a0<em> Bobby and Johnny are  getting just a little too friendly aren&#8217;t they&#8230;let&#8217;s pack them off to  the psychiatrist quickly now&#8230;or to some nice church camp somewhere far  away, where they can pray their unspeakable sin away&#8230;<br \/>\n<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Ah&#8230;Valentine&#8217;s Day&#8230;when all the lonely hearts ponder writing new  songs about the one that did them wrong. \u00a0 I have a different thing in  mind. \u00a0 How about stories of that which might have been, but for the  cheapshit prejudices of the world we were thrown into. \u00a0 I have a few  stories of my own to tell. \u00a0 Pull up a chair. \u00a0 Sit a spell. \u00a0 Love is in  the air. \u00a0 Let me pour you a drink. \u00a0 There is a box of Valentine&#8217;s Day  candy over there on the table, pieces of the moon rattling hollowly  inside&#8230;angry, angry candy&#8230;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Let us pause in our (my) reminiscences to acknowledge that however better it has become for gay kids just discovering what all that love and desire stuff is all about, many of them still get the knife in the heart, with <strong><em>LOVE<\/em><\/strong> engraved on its blade&#8230;<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h3><a href=\"http:\/\/mywabashvalley.com\/fulltext?nxd_id=292862\">Local Students And Staff Want Gays Banned From Prom<\/a><\/h3>\n<p>Several parents, students,  and others who believe gays should be banned from the Sullivan High  School prom met Sunday at the Sullivan First Christian Church.&#8221;We don&#8217;t agree with it and it&#8217;s offensive to us,&#8221; said Diana Medley.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So now they&#8217;re organizing their own Gay Kids Not Allowed prom&#8230;<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;If we can get a good prom then we can convince more people to come and follow what they believe,&#8221; said student Kynon Johnson.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;We  want to make the public see that we love the homosexuals, but we don&#8217;t  think it&#8217;s right nor should it be accepted,&#8221; said a local student.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Feel the love, as Dan Savage says, because nothing says love like &#8220;you&#8217;re not wanted and God hates you.&#8221; \u00a0 The people organizing this &#8220;traditional prom&#8221; had a Facebook page up about it, but took it promptly down when their efforts suddenly became an Internet news item. \u00a0 Here&#8217;s what a couple of them had to say for themselves&#8230;<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>An issue has been raised in the Southwest School Corporation where a same sex couple or couples have requested acceptance of their marching together in the Grand March for the High School Prom. There have been a number of students, along with their parents, that have expressed their dislike over this venue for demonstrating this kind of behavior, which is offensive to many in Sullivan County.<\/p>\n<p>Our first suggestion would be that the school administration ask the same sex couple or couples not use this venue (the Grand March) to demonstrate their sexuality because it is offensive to many and would be demonstrating before minors. So our wish is that the school officials and board return to the traditional couple stance in the same way Indiana only accepts traditional (man and wife) marriages.<\/p>\n<p>We encourage you to show support for the teens in our community that are standing up for what they believe is right. Their position is based on the Bible&#8217;s stance against homosexuality and its acceptance in society and in our schools. It is very difficult for many of our high schoolers to stand up against peer pressure, our permissive culture and main stream media and yet many teens are standing up concerning this blatant demonstration that is not in accordance with God&#8217;s Word.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Please keep in mind that we love those who participate in homosexuality but that does not mean that we love homosexuality.<\/em><\/strong> Just as it has become their civil right (according to our society today) to attend the Grand March as a homosexual couple, it is our teens right to speak out against such a public demonstration. <strong><em>Many believe, as our teens do, this is not the venue to demonstrate a homosexual lifestyle.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A meeting for those in support of these efforts will be on Sunday, February 10, 2013 at the Sullivan First Christian Church at 1:30pm. This event and these efforts are not being organized by the Sullivan First Christian Church but the building is the gathering location for the meeting. Students and parents who support this effort are encouraged to attend. May God bless you as you pray over these efforts.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>And this&#8230;from another member&#8230;<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>We would like to stress to everyone that this is not a hate group. We do not hate anyone, we are not judging anyone. We are choosing to stand on the word of God. The bible says the truth will set you free. All we can do is stand for what we believe and let God do the rest. We will not judge or hate anyone for their choice. We simply choose the entire word of God. The unchanging living word of God. God is the same yesterday, today and forever.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>[emphasis mine] \u00a0 Those who participate in homosexuality. \u00a0 Those who participate in homosexuality. \u00a0 Those who participate in homosexuality. \u00a0 Do these people ever listen to themselves yapping? \u00a0 Oh&#8230;and there&#8217;s Homosexual Lifestyle, right on cue. \u00a0 And the ostentatious avowals of love for those who participate in homosexuality. \u00a0 We are not a hate group, we only want those who participate in homosexuality to know they are not welcome at the prom. \u00a0 Because homosexuals don&#8217;t love, they participate in homosexuality.<\/p>\n<p>Feel the love, because the gay kids who go to that school sure are.<\/p>\n<p>Worse though than a bunch of bigot parents, are the bigot teachers. \u00a0 And especially bad if their job is caring for the kids who are among the most vulnerable among them&#8230;<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h3><a href=\"http:\/\/thenewcivilrightsmovement.com\/teacher-says-gays-have-no-purpose-in-life-wants-lgbt-kids-banned-from-prom\/discrimination\/2013\/02\/11\/60218\">Teacher Says Gays Have No Purpose In Life, Wants LGBT Kids Banned From Prom<\/a><\/h3>\n<p>A teacher of special needs children in Indiana is speaking out with  other Christian parents and students by demanding LGBT kids be banned  from a Sullivan High School prom.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Here&#8217;s a direct quote from that interview, courtesy of Dan Savage&#8230;<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote><p>PAIGE PREUSSE: A gay person, um, do you consider them, maybe, do [you believe] they have some sort of purpose in life?<\/p>\n<p>DIANA MEDLEY: I don&#8217;t. I personally don&#8217;t. I&#8217;m sorry.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/dianamedleypurpose.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-6843\" title=\"dianamedleypurpose\" src=\"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/dianamedleypurpose.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"373\" height=\"278\" srcset=\"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/dianamedleypurpose.jpeg 373w, https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/dianamedleypurpose-300x223.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 373px) 100vw, 373px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Imagine you are a gay kid and you are hearing your teacher, or someone else&#8217;s teacher, say that your life has no purpose.<\/p>\n<p>I notice this morning that the headline on that Wabash Valley Channel 2 page has changed from &#8220;Local Students And Staff Want Gays Banned From Prom&#8221; to &#8220;Local Students Want &#8216;Traditional Prom&#8217;, Gays Banned&#8221;, and I strongly suspect that&#8217;s at the request of the school that doesn&#8217;t want any of its knuckle dragging staff caught in the backwash of all this, let alone the school facing a lawsuit when a gay student takes Ms. Medley&#8217;s \u00a0opinion their life has no purpose to heart and kills themselves. \u00a0 And of course you just know that at the end of all this, the homophobes will be bellyaching that they were the bullied ones. \u00a0 Certainly not the gay kids who wanted to bring their dates to the prom, just like any other kid does, and were told they weren&#8217;t wanted, that God hates them, and that their lives have no purpose, condemned as Joseph Epstein would have said, to a state of permanent niggerdom among men.<\/p>\n<p>Oh, and happy Valentine&#8217;s Day. \u00a0 We love you. \u00a0 Can&#8217;t you tell by the knife we&#8217;ve stuck in your heart?<\/p>\n<p>[Edited a tad&#8230;  \u00a0Edited some more to correct a name&#8230;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I began these Valentine&#8217;s Day reminiscences to shine a light on how love is systematically taken from this poor angry world, denied not just to gay people, but to everyone, lover, friend, family, they might have also loved. \u00a0 I began it with a quote from a vicious screed published in Harper&#8217;s Magazine back in [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,4],"tags":[14,32,20,26],"class_list":["post-6842","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-life","category-politics","tag-gay-youth","tag-hate","tag-the-american-gutter","tag-the-bully-mindset"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6842","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6842"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6842\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6842"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6842"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6842"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}