{"id":6364,"date":"2012-08-29T12:54:43","date_gmt":"2012-08-29T17:54:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/?p=6364"},"modified":"2012-08-29T13:14:23","modified_gmt":"2012-08-29T18:14:23","slug":"getting-real","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/6364","title":{"rendered":"Getting Real"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dan Savage<\/a>…<\/p>\n

I blew up a corner of the Internet last night. After reading \u00a0this observation<\/a> about Ann Romney’s speech at the Dish…<\/p>\n

[Ann Romney says] what she and Mitt have is a “real marriage.” Who has a fake one, one wonders?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

…I tweeted something about my \u00a0unreal<\/em> marriage and created the hashtag \u00a0#unrealmarriage<\/a>. The #unrealmarriage hashtag quickly trended as other people in marriages that the GOP doesn’t consider legitimate\u2014and the Republican party has ways of shutting our marriages down\u2014started tweeting out their unreal 140-character love stories, their unreal wedding pictures, photos of their unreal kids, etc., all with the #unrealmarriage hashtag.<\/p>\n

Now I wasn’t watching Ann Romney’s speech\u2014I also missed Rick Santorum’s speech\u2014so I didn’t hear her “real marriage” remark in context before I tweeted. My bad. So here’s Romney’s “real marriage” phrase in context…<\/p>\n

I read somewhere that Mitt and I have a “storybook marriage.” Well, in the storybooks I read, there were never long, long, rainy winter afternoons in a house with five boys screaming at once. And those storybooks never seemed to have chapters called MS or Breast Cancer. A storybook marriage? No, not at all. What Mitt Romney and I have is a \u00a0real marriage<\/strong>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Angry conservatives soon swarmed #unrealmarriage to argue that we were being unfair to Ann Romney because she wasn’t drawing a distinction between her opposite-sex marriage and the same-sex marriages that keep Rick Santorum up at night. But “real marriage” is a loaded a phrase\u2014particularly in the context of the Republican National Convention. It’s so loaded a phrase, in fact, that even those who were watching the speech\u2014like Andrew Sullivan\u2014took it as an unsubtle dig at folks in same-sex marriages. And while Romney’s comments seem benign in print\/pixels), consider the \u00a0reaction of the anti-gay crowd<\/a>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Here’s the thing… \u00a0you can’t turn words like “Family” and “Values” into dog whistles for hating on gay people and then get miffed when whenever you use those words to actually mean Family and Values people keep hearing that dog whistle. \u00a0You’re the one trashed the neighborhood and forgive me (or not) for thinking you did that out of spite because you couldn’t make the rent. \u00a0And if you turn the institution of marriage into a seedy dive with a sign over the bar that reads…<\/p>\n

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…just remember, the one who devalued marriage, is you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dan Savage… I blew up a corner of the Internet last night. After reading \u00a0this observation about Ann Romney’s speech at the Dish… [Ann Romney says] what she and Mitt have is a “real marriage.” Who has a fake one, one wonders? …I tweeted something about my \u00a0unreal marriage and created the hashtag \u00a0#unrealmarriage. The […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[18,118],"class_list":["post-6364","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-politics","tag-gratuitous-anti-gay-hate","tag-republican-america"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6364","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6364"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6364\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6364"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6364"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brucegarrett.com\/brucelog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6364"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}